1/2/2017
To Tell? or Not to Tell?"Say that you like this woman, not because she's beautiful but everything about her is awesome and you see pass her beauty. You like her, and feel like you should tell her. But you feel like that would mess things up between y'all, what would you do, tell her how you feel or keep things to yourself? And If you were the lady in this situation, what would you want the guy to do?" - First Last Dear First:
It’s always strenuous to be in a see-saw of emotions when you are indecisive about whether or not telling someone how you feel about them is a smart decision, especially if you are “friends” of a sort. In fact it could become pretty frustrating if you have to witness her being mistreated and hurt by others knowing that you like her. You’ve been keeping this locked away for however long, and it’s clear that the thought still creates an itch and you have to suppress the urge to say how you’re truly feeling. Thoughts like this can appear as annoying and can begin to gnaw at your conscience. The solution that I see is to tell her how you feel, not in hopes that she will like you back, but so that the thought can retire from floating around in your “What If” bank. There’s the chance that she does in fact care for you in that same way, but be prepared for the exact opposite. If I was the lady in this particular situation I would want the guy to say something because I understand how frustrating it is keeping things to yourself that you wish you could share. I don’t enjoy things bothering me, so I wouldn’t want something like this to bother my friend. I have had “friends” like me before, and they have mentioned it to me as well…. Some of us are pretty good friends still, others not so much. Not because of what they told me but more so because they made it awkward or couldn’t quite get over the fact that I don’t see myself as being more than friends with them. Of course I was respectful when I told them the feelings weren’t mutual, and if the lady is truly your friend and doesn’t share that similar likeness I would hope she does the same. The decision to say anything is more about you than it is about her. Prepare yourself for that “I’m sorry but…” -- don’t let that be a discouraging factor. “Doubt kills more dreams than failure ever will.” - Suzy Kassem |
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